Archive for June, 2012
We all remember things our mothers used to say. These sayings have been around since the beginning of time, and I can still hear her today, as I hear myself repeating some of them. Do you remember these? I do!
- Don’t pick at it! it will get infected.
- Don’t crack your knuckles like that, you’ll get arthritis when you grow up.
- Stand up straight and take your hands out of your pockets.
- Stop picking your nose.
- Use a hanky not the back of your hand.
- Don’t come crying to me if you kill yourself doing that.
- [When looking at the page 3 girl in the Sun] don’t look at that for too long or you’ll go blind.
- Have you been for a number 2.
- When was the last time you went for a number 2?
- This might sting a little bit but it’s for your own good
- Don’t stick that in your mouth you don’t know where it’s been
- Don’t sit too close to the TV, you’ll ruin your eyes.
- Don’t forget to wash behind your foreskin.
- Don’t forget to cover the toilet seat, you don’t know what you might catch.
- When was the last time you washed behind your ears?
- Have you washed your belly button out?
- If you don’t wash between your toes you’ll get cheese growing in there
- If you don’t hurry up we will leave without you.
- What have you been doing in these shoes?
- When was the last time you changed your pants
- You’ll never get a girlfriend looking like that
- When was the last time you had a bath?
- What’s that mark on your neck?
- In my day we only spoke when we were spoken to.
- Don’t back chat me or I’ll tell your father
- I told you not to go near him, he’s an idiot
- Don’t worry it will all come out in the wash
- I don’t care if you’re not sorry, say it anyway.
- Don’t you dare clean those muddy boots in my sink.
- If you’re going to do that, do it outside.
- If you think you’re going to get away with that you have another thing coming.
- Don’t even think of it.
- You look as though you’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards.
- Finish your plate, there are starving people in Africa.
- If you don’t have room for peas, you don’t have room for dessert.
- Eat it, it’s good for you.
- Some day you’ll learn to like it.
- Just take two more bites.
- If you don’t eat your vegetables you’ll get scurvy
- Eat your carrots, you’ll be able to see in the dark.
- What do you mean you don’t like spinach? Popeye eats it every day.
- If they told you to jump off a cliff would you do it?
- I don’t care if everyone else is doing it.
- I don’t care if Pete’s mom lets him. I’m not Pete’s mum.
- Why don’t you be more like so and so? He seems like a nice boy.
- Just tell them sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me. Then they’ll leave you alone.
- Don’t let them talk you into anything.
- You have a mind of your own, why did you listen to them?
- You can’t tell a book by it’s cover.
- They’re just saying that because they’re jealous.
- You just hold your head up high and never mind what everyone’s saying.
- This room looks like a pig sty.
- You call this clean?
- Put it back where you got it or where it belongs.
- How can you find anything in this mess?
- This doesn’t belong on the floor. Hang it up.
- You’re just like your father.
- You don’t see your father and I doing that do you?
- I don’t care if it’s yours, just give it to him.
- Ask your father.
- Tell your father I’m not speaking to him.
- Don’t do as I do, do as I say.
- As long as you live under my roof…
- Life is never fair.
- Mind your P’s and Q’s.
- If you don’t like it, go live somewhere else.
- It’s for your own good.
- This hurts me more than it hurts you.
Mindfulness is a way of concentrating on the here and now, thereby becoming more aware of how the here and now is affecting you. It doesn’t aim directly at the dispersal of stresses and strains. In fact, it is very hard to develop the concentration necessary to follow your breath, even for a few seconds. What you see is your mind racing from this memory to that moment. But that’s the trick: to observe, and to learn to change the way you relate to the inner maelstrom.
Mindfulness eases the habit of clinging to things, even big things like life itself. When the clinging ceases, the suffering ceases too. Research into the benefits of mindfulness seems to support its claims.
1. Why do we hold on to a previously bad experience as we know its existence is stopping us from moving forwards?
2. Why are we unkind to ourselves?
3. Why do we listen to that annoying little ego that sits in your mind and demands your attention?
4. Why are we always looking to blame someone or something for our problems, so we can deflect the responsibility of the outcomes?
5. Why do we cling to obstacles of the past to prevent the speed of change?
6. Why are we so reluctant to share the gifts we have with others?
7. Why do have the growing fear of being humiliated?
We all need friends that see life in a different way, call them a mother a father a sister or even a mentor. We all need that someone.